💔 How to Let Go and Move On From the Ex Who Still Has Your Heart

Let’s Talk About That Ex

We’ve all had that one. The ex who lingers like a shadow, haunting your playlist, your dreams, your scrolling habits. The one who still has your heart—even if they’ve moved on. If you’ve been struggling with how to let go of an ex, this post is for you.

Let’s be real: letting go isn’t always about the person. It’s about you, the version of yourself you became with them, and the future you thought you’d have. But holding onto them is holding back you. And babe, it’s time to let go—and glow the hell up.

💡Why Letting Go Is So Damn Hard

Let’s stop sugarcoating it. You're not just missing a person—you’re missing:

• The fantasy you created

• The future you planned

• The comfort of what was familiar

• The version of you that existed when you loved them

  
  

But here’s the truth bomb:

You miss who you thought they were, not who they actually showed up as.

And deep down… you know that.

You’re not stuck because of the love. You’re stuck in the loop of what could’ve been. It’s time to stop rereading a chapter you’ve already outgrown.

🧹 The Let-Go & Move-On Checklist (Real AF Edition)

Ready to take your power back? Here’s your no-fluff action plan:

1. Block Them

Not for drama. For peace. Out of sight, out of mind is real when you're trying to heal. You owe no one access to your healing space.

2. Delete the Drafts

You know, the “just in case” text. That one you almost send at 2am. Stop reopening wounds with unsent love letters.

3. Purge the Playlist

If your Spotify sounds like a heartbreak movie soundtrack… it’s time to hit reset. Create a new playlist: “Healed & Hot”, “Grown Woman Energy”, “Main Character Vibes”. You get the idea.

4. Remember the Red Flags

Don’t romanticize your trauma. Missing them doesn’t mean they were meant for you. Love can exist and still be toxic.

5. Tell Yourself the Truth

Replace the fantasy with facts. Ask yourself: Did they meet your needs, consistently? Did you feel safe, loved, and prioritized? If the answer is no—you’re not losing love. You’re losing an illusion.

6. Romanticize Your Damn Self

Book the solo date. Buy the perfume. Start the podcast. Get the degree. You don’t need someone to complete you. You need someone who complements the masterpiece you already are.

💬 5 Affirmations to Repeat When You Feel Yourself Slipping

Say these out loud. In the mirror. In your journal. With your whole chest.

✨ "I release what isn’t aligned with the future I’m building."

✨ "My past is a chapter, not the whole damn book."

✨ "I don’t chase love—I attract what matches my healing."

✨ "I’m not bitter—I’m better."

✨ "Closure is a self-delivered package."

🛑 Reminder: You Deserve More Than Half-Love

If they couldn’t show up for you when they had the chance, they don’t get to haunt your healing journey now. This is your sign to stop begging the past to come back—and start choosing your future on purpose.

You are not hard to love. You were just loving someone who couldn’t love at your level.

Read that again.

✨ Final Thoughts: Reclaim Your Power

This heartbreak might have cracked you open, but it also cracked the door to something so much better. This isn’t the end—it’s your rebirth. You’ve evolved. You’ve learned. And now? It’s time to fall back in love with you.

Let go. Not because you didn’t care. But because you care about yourself more now.

Your energy is sacred. Stop wasting it on people who aren’t fighting to be in your life.

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With Love

Chey✨